Yeah, so um. I'm 15 (16 in November) and I've never had a boyfriend and I've never been kissed. Most of my friends have been and I feel really lonely. I lust for kissing and my soul longs for someone whom I can relate to and and talk easily with. I feel so pathetic....most everyone has had a boyfriend or at least been kissed by 15 and I'm still alone. I feel really sad and it's very hard for me to picture me with anyone since the chance has never come up. I'm not unattractive, people tell me I'm pretty, and I'm very opinionated and interesting, I think. Why is nothing happening? I'm even considering going to one of those psychics or fortunetellers to see if they can tell me anything about my future in relationships :o . I'm really at the end of my rope. Any advice? :a
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There's nothing wrong at all about being 15 and unkissed... I wasn't kissed until I was about 16 and a half. Unfortunately, the person who kissed me turned out to be one of the biggest bastards I've ever met and one of the only people I can honestly say that I'd love to kick in the nuts. Heh heh. ;)

The funny thing is... after that experience, I stopped looking for love... and then, about a year later... it found me... and it finally felt right... because I wasn't expecting it at all. :)

Things work out, Callie. :)
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My first kiss was at sweet hmmm 17. And yep maybe I felt it took ages to get it but like Callie he was a bit of a prick so I could have probably waited a while longer :) There is nothing to feel pathetic about, I hate to say this but your time will come, and I am sure its not too far away. Go to parties etc and meet people, try and make sure the guy you kiss is one you want to kiss. Dont dable in things just for the sake of it, or because your friends have. Be your own person, be proud of yourself. A lot of people do things to follow the crowd and end up regretting it. As for boyfriend, I havent had one and I am 20. I am not bad looking, I have been told, I have went out with guys at clubs and things and have had offers. I just know I havent found the guy I am supposed to go out with or who I havent clicked with for that I am prepared to wait, but its bloody frustrating. As callie says, dont look for love. Its actually a pretty common saying. Let it surprise you, its more fun that way.

Take care xxx
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I didn't kiss a girl until I was 18. In fact I didn't even really have a girlfriend until that same age. I felt much like you do.

It can be really hard sometimes to see your friends having relationships while you can't seem to find someone. I guess the only advice I could give is to be patient.

You'll find someone. That sounds so cliche sorry.

Anyways you aren't alone. I've been single for awhile now, and every now and then I get those twinges of feeling lonely. I just try and stay positive. That and continually tell myself that women are evil and i'm better off alone. Heh. Works sometimes. ;p
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just like to say...I HEART YOUR SIG!! eeee!! pretty faeries

but yeah..that was strange, reading your post...i could relate to pretty much everything there...except the never been kissed part..perhaps if i was to replace that with never been kissed where my permission was involved, lol. :b

but i know how you feel...if you ever need someone to talk to or whatever feel free to contact me..

msn: deep_like_dirty_water@hotmail.com

or through PM, whatever *mwah* hope you feel better soon
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<font color=blue>My first kiss (and sexual experience) was at 21...
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Thanks everyone for the support. I don't feel like I can talk about this to people I know personally. I'm glad people listen here. :f

Seeing Stars, thanks! I may just e-mail you.
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callie, being almost 16 and havent kissed anyone yet is nothing to worry about. its actually alot more common than you think. i didnt have my first real kiss till i was 17, and allll my friends had had theirs long before. i felt left out too, but yknow what? my kiss was with a wonderful, amazing boy who all my friends wanted and thiers were with phony jerks who were in and out of the picture within a matter of months. it was a perfect experience, and it made me glad i took extra time.
it isnt a race. just keep your mind and eyes out for someone you can really talk to and connect with.
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awww, callie, i'm sorry, but like alot of people have said, it's not too muchto worry about. i never really dated anyone until i was 16, and didn't get into doing anything sexually until i was 17. lol, ialways remember complaing that alot of my friends had boy problems and that i wish i had them instead of no one at all, but once i did. i regretted what i said:r .

plus i remember seeing your pic in some threads ( only because i always love your sigs and avatars they're always so awesome!) and you're beautiful. you also have to realize boys do mature as they get older and realize the decent, deep, intelligent girls from the 2 brain celled ditzes from high school ( well alot of them anway)

but i do know how you feel because when i was 15,16, and 17 i felt the same way. i wanted to be with, to share things with, cuddle, kiss etc.....and even now i still feel that way sometimes, but it hits you whe you least expect it trust me! you want someone to appreciate you for who you are and love the you! don't worry, it will happen soon!:)

~~mandy~~
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I got my first kiss at a young age. I couldn't tell you how old I was exactly, I don't really remember it. Honestly. With my friends, we would play kissing games with boys and that's how I got my first French kiss (I think). I don't remember who was the first. I wish I could have had my first kiss later so I could remember it...

But since you're longing for that first kiss, I'm willing to be your first: ;k

There, you've been kissed. :e Don't thank me. :p

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Caroline
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i know how you feel....i wasn't kissed till december of last year.....i had just turned 17....almost all of my friends had lost their virginity and i still hadn't kissed a guy....i felt kinda lame, i thought i was never gonna get kissed....but there's no reason to feel lame at all....it's not a big deal, it just feels like one cause we're so insecure inside.....just don't worry so much about it, it'll happen and you'll be really giddy when it does :p :l
*hugs*

lanya
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Thanks for the encouragement everyone. It's not just that I feel I should have someone because "everyone else" has. I really do want someone whom I can cuddle with and feel loved by and admired. I've never had that.

I've just been feeling depressed and down this whole school year actually. My friends are too busy with their own problems to care and my best friend is sick of me and is constantly telling me my faults. My mom complains constantly about how inadequate as a mother I make her feel and that she's tired of me being unhappy and that I need a new attitude. I feel very lonely. I feel like there's no help. A boyfriend would though, I guess. :(

Sorry for the shit spill.
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... and seeing as it's that or strangle a fox, it doesn't seem like such a bad option :)

There are good sides to being on your own, you know. True, you miss out on the whole "human warmth" thing, but at least you can eat crisps in bed without being shouted at.

Failing that, I'll just reiterate what everyone else says - sometimes it does happen. I keep on believing that, so could you.

love,

bluetracer
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Callie, in time it will come, the worst part is that it has to be that way (waiting)...I personally didn't feel i was ready for a serious relationship even at this point in my life, but then one came and changed it all, and now i'm in my 2nd and my current girlfriend Kim hasn't really had someone care truly about her before and love her..She's had boyfriends but this is something quite different, and it is for me as well...I hope the best for you, try not to worry about the expectations of people around you..

ross :)
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Sweetie, its hard to be around people who are putting you down, especially when you are finding you are feeling so down this year. Its hard to change your attitude towards life when you are depressed, have you thought about talking to someone about your problems? Your mum talking about her feeling inadequate as a mother is her own insecurities, you are the one needing the help at the moment, dont let her worry you too much, parents all want their children to be happy, when they arent, they do tend to blame themselves, believe me, I know. From last replying to this thread, I have met the guy of my dreams, he replied to my thread in the support for the lonely forum, we met last week, had the best week of my life. I wasnt expecting that to happen to me, but it did. As blue says, it may happen, so stay positive sweetie, we are here as always.

Cinders xxxxxxxxxx
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Sweetie, I don't really have any advice for you, but I'd like to tell you "my story" so far(hope I won't regret this, it's sort of personal):

I'm 18 years old. I don't consider myself unattractive, and I generally feel good about myself. A couple of years ago I had complexes for my height (I'm only 1.54 cm tall) and my rather small breasts (A70 and smaller). At the age of 7 I got my first kiss from a boy, also aged 7 (first "real" kiss when I was 14-15). I'm kinda direct by nature(or so they tell me), and quite a few thought I'd be one of the first of my friends to have sex.

The thing is, I'm the only one of aprox. 7 girlfriends who haven't had sex yet. I don't feel I have to push it or anything because of that, but I'm beginning to feel that it's time to take that step. This is not depressing in it self, what bothers me is that I have never had a serious relationship in my life. I've never met a boy who've I could have imagined having sex with. The few times I've been fooling around with a boy, and it has went beyond kissing, the thought of actually having sex with him has made me terrified.
It feels like I'm never going to be mentally ready for sleeping with someone. One night stands are completely out of the question (though it seems more likely for my current love-situation), because I come from a very small place where everybody knows everybody and it's very easy to be placed in the "slut-category".
On top of everything, I'm finding girls more and more attractive..something that is really confusing me.

I'd like to finish this by saying that I'm not obsessed with sex or anything - what I miss most is just to have a boy I can really communicate with, and just to BE in a serious relationship with everything that goes - including the physical aspects as well.

My point is, you're not alone, callie7 :)
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Hey all. Just wanted to say that whenever I'm feeling lonely, I read this thread and it makes me feel better.
I thought I'd just give an update. I'm 16 now, still nothing even resembling a relationship in sight. Depressed about that. I'm just so...lonely you know? :p I look in the mirror and think "I'm pretty. Someone compliments me every day on some part of my appearance. So why don't I have a boyfriend?" Then again, everyone that compliments me is a girl. Maybe I should become a lesbian.

any kind of touch I think is better than none, even upside down
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<font color=blue>You can't just become a lesbian... maybe you're like me and lack confidence...
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personally, I'm 17, nearing 18, and have never had a date, never been kissed, etc. it makes me feel utterly lonely. blah.

most of the people I know were over 18 before they got their first date.


it really does take patience. and self confidence.
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15 was a bad year! You have all my sympathies! That was my last brain operation; the prior one was at 13. I know how you feel! No one would go near me. Plus, being a female & your appearance means so much *shakes head* - they had to shave my head. Age 13 then 15, so grade 7 then 9. Sh*t. I feel for you! Kids are so cruel.

As with the others, my first kiss was at 16. He was also a bastard; he was 18. Ended-up beating the sh*t out of me, but as I said - I was & felt ugly, so when that's your only option you kind of let it happen. My advice - don't! Learn from our mistakes.

And yes, you will find the right guy. I know it sounds loser-ish, & maybe I am?, but I didn't "date" until I was 17. I've dated guys but only had 2 boyfriends, until now with Clint. My friends have dated the earth! I was so jealous! But y'know, having a few good experiences of laughing, holding hands, going through life, etc. together - is much better than getting kissed first, laid first, etc. I've seen what all that chaos has done to my friends. As much of a head-case as I can be, they're worse! *wink*

Think of it this way: Men/Women are like the giraffe from The Friendly Giant (*did I just age myself?). You'll be chilling with your friend, The Chicken. Next thing you know - a guy/girl will pop his/her head through the window! It's true! I met Clint @ a wedding. Oh sh*t, I went through The Worst break-up! (*PM moi for details!) I went thinking, "Great! Everyone's getting married but me..." Then I noticed the Best man winking at me. *chuckle* I had ALOT of When Is It My Turn? years. So I focussed on school. Now I have alot of education, 2 job prospects, and one fabulous guy.

It happens. It takes time. I Promise! :b
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Let's just say that things change..sometimes slow (like for me, the last 3-4 years), and sometimes they change very, very, VERY fast..(like now).
Just hang on for a couple of years, you never know.

You're on a roller-coaster right now, and you're still on your way up! Yay! :e



...it WILL happen, I'm sure:)
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